NY therapist Colette Dowling discovered women’s deep-rooted conflicts about independence and labled the syndrome The Cinderella Complex. The Cinderella Complex has ratings and 50 reviews. Mallory said: I thought Lean in, Cinderella In , Colette Dowling came to speak at our school. 22 quotes from Colette Dowling: ‘We have only one real shot at liberation, and that is to emancipate ourselves from within’, ‘Once established, the young girl’s.

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It’s way harder to do so if you add race, class or sexual orientation to the equation.

The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence

Males are educated for independence from the day they’re born. For further information, or to seek a free consultation, Ms. By using this site, you agree to the Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. Stay long enough in a situation in which you feel you co,plex no control, and you will simply stop responding.

In the story of Cinderella, her fairy godmother changes her into a princess and, because of this, her masculine savior meets her at the cihderella.

It created this hierarchy that positioned middle class women above poorer women likely women of color who would be those housekeepers. Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. Language English View all editions Prev Next edition 8 of Their likes and dislikes can define their coming lives. Open Preview See a Problem? This isn’t so surprising, Colette says, as tje Cinderella Complex is the outcome of years of social conditioning.


I wanted full-time emotional protection, a buffer between me and the world. It’s cinerella she wanted to create a species that is neither a man nor a woman.

Goodreads helps you follow your favorite authors. We could say that it talks about the unconscious desire of women to be constantly protected or taken care of while giving up their own interests or goals. You are onto something with the depression of homemakers with full-time employment.

Cinderella Complex: What is it and turn it into Independence

Tags What are tags? When a girl begins to walk many parents are happy, but this happiness is tainted by worrisome thoughts and eyes filled with fear. It is less likely for a woman to actively participate when there is someone else who can help.

Hyperpigmentation and Light Exposure courtneysunday. I had been scared most of the time–scared of the inexplicably rising costs, scared of the landlord, scared that I would not be ble to hang in there and keep us all afloat month after month, year after year. When I was 35 I left New York and what had been a solitary, four-year struggle to make ends meet, after my husband and Co,ette had separated. Lists with This Cindderella.

New York therapist Colette Dowling wrote The Cinderella Complex after discovering women’s deep-seated conflicts with independence. Check copyright status Cite this Title The Cinderella complex: View online Borrow Buy Freely available Show 0 more links Within six months I’d gained ten pounds.

I thought that things were getting better in our culture, but this book written at the end of the 80’s, seemed to indicate that this just isn’t so. Add a tag Cancel Be the first to add a cinedrella for this edition.


I read this book when I was just 23 and it had a profound effect on me. She is currently interning at PSB, a research consulting firm in Manhattan.

I was always lingering a bit–tending a flower pot, cinderwlla a fire, looking out a window.

Colette Dowling Quotes (Author of The Cinderella Complex)

Then, the newly transformed princess loses her glass slipper and the love-stricken prince goes house to house until he finds the owner of the slipper. Anonymous reply to Anonymous You are onto something with the depression of homemakers with full-time employment. It can help you no colettte what your age or your goals. This is not reality, but a fantasy.

These online bookshops told us they have this item: Flinders University Central Library. Retrieved January 27,from http: In the end, women still fear that if they were to develop themselves fully they could end up alone, unloved and uncared for. One day a man will take care of all of their needs there will be no rowling to work anymore.

Any woman who looks within knows that she was never trained to be comfortable with the idea of taking cokette of herself, standing up for herself, asserting herself. He bought her presents all the time.

Moreover, never stop treating your children like princes or princesses. Having been written inI thought that this book might be ‘outdated”.