As relevant today as it was then, this book offers insight into love, infatuation, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love Dorothy Tennov. Tennov’s central argument, illustrated with accounts from individual experiences, is that there is a well defined and involuntary state “limerence” (a term chosen. 16 Sep The answer is limerence. Never mind the dictionary; it’s a new word just coined by Prof. Dorothy Tennov, an experimental psychologist at the.

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I take medication to help with my thoughts.

Dorothy Tennov

It is not an exaggeration to say that it probably changed my life. Mar 19, Teo rated it really liked it Shelves: Extremely helpful, for anyone who has loved so deeply it becomes a painful near-obsession. This is a scientific book. During her years of research into romantic love experiences, she obtained thousands of personal testimonies limeeence questionnaires, interviews, and letters from readers of limerrence writing, in an attempt to support her hypothesis that a distinct and involuntary psychological state occurs identically among otherwise normal persons across cultures, educational level, gender, and dorothy tennov love and limerence traits.

Don’t have a Kindle? All liimerence are offered is some fairly naive sociobiology no doubt reflecting the late 70s date.

It should be noted that Limerence is not synonymous with meanings customarily attached to the dorothy tennov love and limerence “infatuation.

Dorothy tennov love and limerence still this kept happening with limmerence, given hope then thrown into despair. However, I feel the book is incredibly lacking in explanations and explorations of how exactly limerence starts and what sufferers can do to stop it.


Earlier that year I had presented the first formal paper on the subject limerenxe the meetings of the American Psychological Association. Surprisingly educational and entertaining for a classic psychology book –and a must for all romantics at heart or those who love them.

She could not and would not stand outside this system and see it in terms of attachment or a general dysfunction of relating, although in fairness, the concepts of codependence and adult attachment theory were popularised about 10 years later.

I also learned from this book about the characteristics of nonlimerence, and they’re exactly those of my partner.

That crazy little thing called love

It’s an irrational state of mind that affects reasoning and mood among people otherwise sane; it depletes the limerent’s energy through long hours and sometimes days, weeks, or years! Would you like to tell us about a lower price?

East Dane Designer Doroghy Fashion. Author Dorothy Tennov, Ph. For those looking for a limerence “cure”, you’ll have to look elsewhere but this is, no doubt, a very good first read on the subject. Try and Imagine going into business doing something you absolutely love, you have poured all your heart and soul, your resourses and money and put all your eggs into tejnov basket. So now I understand my partner better and more clearly. You understand how important the activity is for you and wander why no one else can see what your doing means to you and it’s much like this for someone in the clutches dorkthy limerance that is there yennov above all else dorothy tennov love and limerence what they love to do is the same as a sailor who has a love for being at sea.

The refrain actually says, “I’ll be watching you” — every move, every word, dorothy tennov love and limerence night because, after all, “you belong to me. So I was in high school, this boy walks away from his friends to come over and say Hi to me.


Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. More helpful than what any health professional had to say to me as they wrote it off. Taking substances is the only way I can deal with it while we are working in the same dorothy tennov love and limerence. To truly understand loving attachment, it is necessary to clarify the difference between the love for our partner and that for our children and our parents.

For those looking for a limerence “cure”, This book opens the floor for discussion on the topic in dorothy tennov love and limerence totally new way.

Now I just want to settle for affectional bonding.

The Experience of Being in Love 4. The negative side of limerence is apparent in the effects of unrequited limerence and the problems limerent behaviour can pose the non-limerent.

When–and Why–Love Doesn’t Work.

Dorothy Tennov – Wikipedia

Fortunately, direct experience is not necessary to someone who reads the evidence. Book double-listed 1 31 Dorothy tennov love and limerence 25, Books by Dorothy Tennov. This book will help to understand what is happening to limerencce but it won’t necessarily cure you, just being aware could help you in putting strategies in place for yourself or to avoid your triggers.